Ask for what you want, not what you think you’ll get.

Too many women base their requests on what they believe the other person will be willing to do. Your requests should be based on what you want—that’s why they are called requests. Do not dummy down your request because you don’t think the other person will want to fulfill it. Ask for what you truly want and then celebrate the yeses you get and learn to accept the nos. If the no's far outweigh the yeses, decide how you want to handle that imbalance and then step in and speak to it.