Be authentic. Be honest with yourself about what motivates your decisions. You are going to be a more reliable spouse, parent and friend if you can be honest with yourself. Your communications with others will be genuine when you can speak clearly, without accusation and assumption. Ater all, if we have to work through our motivations and intentions, don't others need the room to do that also? Babies are small people, they understand much more than so many people give them credit for. They like limitations, it eases them. After all, when you know a boundary exists- isn't it easier to stay in the lines???

Being auhentic is being true, knowing what motivates you and what makes you avoid. When people know the parameters, you can be assured that they appreciate it and they come closer knowing that you are able to set boundaries and observe other peoples boundaries- based on understanding your comfort levels and honestly representing your limitations.