http://binahbaby.com Binah Baby was founded by Dr. Shoshana Kesner to help anglo olim experience positive outcomes when dealing with the birth system in Israel. Binah Baby is the only site in Israel that focuses on the full spectrum of birth care from fertility, prenatal, pregnancy, birth and postpartum or after birth care. We have a postpartum doula training program in English and we provide support and continuing education for birth professionals in Israel. Couples can find doulas, childbirth education, lactation consultants, breastfeeding support and other support professionals through our directory. Tue, 31 Aug 2010 11:30:00 +0000 http://snappages.com en http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/08/31/autumn-changes-and-new-programs-for-you http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/08/31/autumn-changes-and-new-programs-for-you Tue, 31 Aug 2010 11:30:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/08/31/autumn-changes-and-new-programs-for-you
I had a staycation with my family and friends [...]]]>
I had a staycation with my family and friends and generally was working on exciting new programs to bring to you. I found out that our dear "bat bayit" (that's a very special young woman who our family has welcomed into our lives like a daughter) is expecting and we get to be "Oma & Opa" - which is totally awesome. Yes, we plan on my being with the beautiful couple for the birth this winter, God willing.

I am very excited to be working with Micahl Finkelstein, RN, CNM (author of B'sh'ah Tova! and co-author of Delivery Through Darkness). We will be co-teaching and translating the course to Hebrew so that native Israeli's will be able to take part in this awesome opportunity!

Also, Midwife, Sleep Training Expert and Lactaion Consultant: Leanne Kaye has opened a new agency and service for you: Night Nanny International, Israel I have been training the new nannies and they are going to help you get some sleep!

Doulas, Midwives, Lactation consultants... these are amazing women and they love what they do. They look to be the most effective help you can find.

I have come to see the autumn as a time of expectations. With the new programs, courses and recharged internal batteries- I cannot wait to be a part of the strengthening of spirit and optimism in this beautiful country you've chosen to call home.

You will be noticing changes the site a bit. Check the calendar and you can keep updated through the blog.

Join our Facebook page and I'm easily found on twitter @shoshanakesner

Binah Baby is looking forward to your success in beginnings, growing and becoming!






]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/19/doulas-and-homebirth http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/19/doulas-and-homebirth Mon, 19 Jul 2010 14:27:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/19/doulas-and-homebirth Here is a post by another midwife and it's a real eye opener. I fall in line with her thinking on this one...

"When I meet a doula, whether she has been one for a long time or just beginning, invariably, I hear the phrase, “I really want to see a home birth.” The next thing that comes out of her mouth is often, [...]]]> Here is a post by another midwife and it's a real eye opener. I fall in line with her thinking on this one...

"When I meet a doula, whether she has been one for a long time or just beginning, invariably, I hear the phrase, “I really want to see a home birth.” The next thing that comes out of her mouth is often, “Can I go to a birth with you? I’ll be quiet.” Or something to that effect. Having been a doula for many years before ever attending a homebirth, I totally understand the desire. Especially when the births she sees, one after another, are the typical, energy-suck, lack of empowerment type.

While some homebirth clients will hire a doula, in my experience, they are few and far between. If she brings a doula along on the birth trip, I really enjoy it. I’ve often said there’s enough work to go around for how many hands... read it here

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/12/postpartum-depression-in-the-news http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/12/postpartum-depression-in-the-news Mon, 12 Jul 2010 18:54:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/07/12/postpartum-depression-in-the-news
Could postpartum depression have played a role in the boys [...]]]>
Could postpartum depression have played a role in the boys disappearance?

Kyron's parents, Kaine Horman and Desiree Young, have revealed one of the reasons they say they fear Kyron's stepmother, Terri Horman, is hiding something -- that she changed after the birth of her baby, Kiara, 19 months ago.

Read the rest here.

I am not an alarmist, but there is a reason for early diagnosis and treatment. Not every woman demonstrates extreme symptoms- but they can still damage a family. So do something:

Contacct a postpartum doula- she'll refer you to an expert in your area.
In Israel, go tothe nurse at Tipat Chalav, if she is a support for you.
Speak with your GYN.
Call Nitza.

Just do something.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/20/fathers-are-people-too http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/20/fathers-are-people-too Sun, 20 Jun 2010 14:12:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/20/fathers-are-people-too
Men perceive birth differently from the way women do. They are observers, no matter how perceptive, loving, understanding. They watch the love of their lives in pain. Productive pain- sure. But it’s so very hard for them to see.

I spoke with a [...]]]>
Men perceive birth differently from the way women do. They are observers, no matter how perceptive, loving, understanding. They watch the love of their lives in pain. Productive pain- sure. But it’s so very hard for them to see.

I spoke with a business advisor about what I am working towards. I explained in full what the role of a labor assistant is and what the postpartum doula does. We spoke about the costs, the benefits and the risks. He decided that the next time his wife was expecting, he was going t bring a Doula into the picture! He was astounded by the work, the devotion…

We spoke about the cost as well. He felt that for the unknown amount of work a doula commits herself to, the costs were not bad at all. It is well worth the cost. The physical and mental effort is great, and to relieve a husband so he can catch his breath- well most men think that’s a pretty great deal.

Menashe D. (Names have been changed to preserve privacy) told me that when his wife (Elisheva) was having contractions he’d retreat to the fetal position. He couldn’t take it. Fortunately, they took a doula. She comforted Elisheva and Menashe. He said that it was well worth every agurah.

Stacy and David A. made Aliyah in 2007. Soon after, they found they were expecting their first child, after years of trying. They hired a doula because they were not familiar with the language, the process in Israeli hospitals and they worried about all the horror stories they heard about giving birth in Israel. Well, here’s what he wrote:

“Dear Shoshana, Thank you for helping Stacy through birth. I was so scared and worried. I kept watching for what was going on, and you were telling me that what I was seeing was normal. You supported my wife so she could make it through each contraction. I can’t get over the way you calmed me down- I was so sure the nurses were ignoring Stacy, but you warned us- they have a job to do. I can’t thank you enough for letting me get some rest. I think Stacy was glad to have all your attention! I freaked out, and knowing that you were fine, got me back on track. Anyways- you were great. Sincerely, David A.”

Then there is the postpartum father… he needs support. Sometimes there are fathers who are strongly affected by the new responsibilities of fatherhood. They might have dealt with their own past concerns and new fatherhood brings those unresolved things to the forefront. I have met men who suffered from their own form of postpartum depression. In fact, new studies reveal a true incidence of fathers suffering from postpartum depression- which often is left unresolved. When this occurs, the father is often absent emotionally, physically and spiritually to his wife and family. Fathers matter. Men suffering, need support, therapy and maybe even medication to get past the crisis and recover fully. There is no shame in this. There is only need- and a doula- though not a psychological expert, can identify that a referral might be needed. Further, she can help with the bonding a father can do with the new baby. It can be a time filled with growth and wonder.

Dads are special people, too. They need support. They need reassurance and sometimes they need to stay home to take care of the children. Olim have a more intense need for support. Often, they don’t have parents or relatives to support them through birth here in Israel. (To add to the mix, there may be a difficult economy... I have parents calling me and giving gifts of doula care to their children, it’s cheaper than plane tickets they can’t afford). Husbands need doulas as much as Wives do. Husbands appreciate the extra help. Just ask one- it’s one birth opinion not to be ignored.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/10/they-sang-their-baby-out http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/10/they-sang-their-baby-out Thu, 10 Jun 2010 16:52:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/10/they-sang-their-baby-out
I cried at this birth- the first tears of joy at birth- since my own, 12 years ago.

Harness the strength, beauty and love in song- birth is beautiful. Birth is powerful. Birth is praisworthy. Fear not, the power harness in music heals and can provide a protective shield around the heart of a laboring woman.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/01/professional-development-have-you-grown http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/01/professional-development-have-you-grown Tue, 01 Jun 2010 10:34:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/06/01/professional-development-have-you-grown
Continuing education is a vital component to your responsibilities towards your clients. You stay ahead of the trends, you are able to offer the most updated services and you might [...]]]>
Continuing education is a vital component to your responsibilities towards your clients. You stay ahead of the trends, you are able to offer the most updated services and you might be able to approach your clients needs with a fresh eye. There is a lot of value in the enthusiasm gleaned after you have aquired new information.

Professional networking is a great way to increase your client base and referral lists, also you will meet others working towards the same goals you are. Hearing fresh approaches and dicussing ways to get through different situations, creates unity - which is priceless.

Don't be afraid of competition, allow your drive to succeed in your endeavors to be contageous, create more enthusiasm for your work- and your clients great outcomes. There is much work to do and many people willing to share in the effort. Connect and grow in strength.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/26/govt-funding-for-doula-care http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/26/govt-funding-for-doula-care Wed, 26 May 2010 11:25:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/26/govt-funding-for-doula-care
The first and most important thing, is to understand that [...]]]>
The first and most important thing, is to understand that the gov't and kupot cholim need to be aware of the service (especially the standards of practice and care), it's benefits and it's cost savings compared to the expense. At this point, the hospitals are wary, the public see doula care as an option that is a luxury. (Except for those who actually have used doula care!) And when doulas are involved, there are those who are not interested in taking up the banner, publicizing and working toward this goal.

One of the major issues for this is regulation and "licensing" - if doulas are trained and certified, there will have to be government regulation, fees for a license to practice and all the bureaucracy to go with it. This will also cause doulas to be subject to govt funding changes- being a new and "experimental" program - it's the first one that goes under the bus. Basic dental care for children is not being agreed upon, we want the govt to subsidize doula care? Both are important, both should be included in the sal briut.

I know I just highlighted some of the many roadblocks to this great effort, but when embarking on a course, one really should get to know what the hurdles might be. This way we can prepare to bring the proper "gear" for the journey.

I started Binah Baby to increase access to doulas for couples, and now, I am working to help you as a doula, cbe, ibclc, whatever you do in birth. This is for you and your efforts to bring about improved outcomes for couples on their way to parenthood.

If anyone is interested in working alongside me in this, please contact me.

Professionals, I have back pages that are just for you. They are password protected for your access only. Please contact me for the password to enter. Professional Pages

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/24/how-i-feel-about-my-work http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/24/how-i-feel-about-my-work Mon, 24 May 2010 09:33:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/24/how-i-feel-about-my-work


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/20/a-thought-to-share http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/20/a-thought-to-share Thu, 20 May 2010 07:01:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/05/20/a-thought-to-share "Challenge is what makes life interesting, overcoming challenge is what makes life meaningful." ~ Mark Twain [...]]]> "Challenge is what makes life interesting, overcoming challenge is what makes life meaningful." ~ Mark Twain



]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/13/of-miscarriages-and-birthdays http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/13/of-miscarriages-and-birthdays Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:26:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/13/of-miscarriages-and-birthdays
I went through 4 miscarriages. I didn't tell people about [...]]]>
I went through 4 miscarriages. I didn't tell people about them all, it was hard enough to just live it quietly.

Staying pregnant was a problem. I was pregnant 6 times. I could have been the mother of six. But, I was blessed with two precious boys. And for this, I am grateful.

We celebrate birthdays with love. I celebrate the beauty of my motherhood and his growing up.

But quietly, I dream of four other birthdays I will never celebrate. I don't have daughters- were they girls? Or, would any have had my mother-in-law's big blue eyes? Would they harmonize our Shabbat tunes? Would we have danced in the living room to all the music that moves us? I will never know. When the doctor said: You're on modified bedrest from month 5- with #2- I said okay, I'll do anything to keep this baby in.

Miscarriages are love lost and hopes dashed, names gone away, and futures not fulfilled.

Every birth is a mother's re-birth and a future waiting to be lived.

Birthdays heal me a bit, thrill me a lot and give me another day to be deeply thankful for the children that I get to live with- every day.


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/04/when-should-you-go-to-the-doctor http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/04/when-should-you-go-to-the-doctor Thu, 04 Mar 2010 08:29:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/03/04/when-should-you-go-to-the-doctor
I go on the record: "We do not take [...]]]>
I go on the record: "We do not take chances. Any unexplained abdominal pain in pregnancy must be evaluated by a medical doctor, ultrasound is the only way to see inside the woman."

I am sorry that the woman is hesitant. Why are women hesitant to to rule out serious complications? Fear. I do not agree with the reliance on technological interferences in pregnancy and birth. I do agree that these tools are there for evaluationg and ruling out serious problems.

This woman has unexplained abdominal pain, could it be a hernia? Maybe. Could it be a placental separation? Maybe. The only way to find out- is by ultrasound and medical use of technology. What happens then?

Get there when you get there. Don't assume. But do not ignore.

This is why this doula called me. She knew this. She knows. But it's good to hear someone else say it... so that's what I did. I said it. Go to a doctor if anything unusual occurs in pregnancy. Don't risk it.

And this is why Antepartum Doulas are necessary. They'll go with her, too...

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/23/us-plans-sharp-hike-in-passport-fees http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/23/us-plans-sharp-hike-in-passport-fees Tue, 23 Feb 2010 10:21:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/23/us-plans-sharp-hike-in-passport-fees Follow Israel news

(IsraelNN.com) The United States plans to raise passport and consular fees by up to 100 percent effective March 12 if last-minute protests do not succeed in forestalling the move. The 30-day period for registering objections has expired, and officials are reviewing the proposed new fees [...]]]> Follow Israel news

(IsraelNN.com) The United States plans to raise passport and consular fees by up to 100 percent effective March 12 if last-minute protests do not succeed in forestalling the move. The 30-day period for registering objections has expired, and officials are reviewing the proposed new fees schedule, the American embassy in Israel told Israel National News.

Extending current passports will cost $110, nearly 50 percent more than the present fee of $75, according to the Association of Americans and Canadians in Israel (AACI). The cost of a new first-time passport will rise from $100 to $135, and for a child under 16 from $85 to $100, and passport book security surcharges will double to $40. Application fees for a consular report of a birth in Israel or elsewhere outside of the United States will increase from $65 to $100.

Fees for notary and authentication services will increase 100 percent to $50. Renouncing American citizenship, which now is processed without charge, soon will cost $450, according to the proposed schedule of costs.

Many American immigrants to Israel have angrily protested the new proposed fee schedules in Internet and e-mail forums, but the State Department said the increases were suggested following a comprehensive cost of service study.

“As demand for passports increased to an average of 15 million per year, the increase in certain fees will help cover actual operating expenses for the Department of State’s 301 consular posts abroad, 23 domestic passport agencies, and other centers that provide consular services to both U.S. and foreign citizens,” according to federal officials.They added that improvements in automated systems have decreased some fees, such as the application fee for determining returning resident status.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/13/pregnant-women-with-hyperemesis-gravidarum-likely-to-suffer-depression-or-anxiety http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/13/pregnant-women-with-hyperemesis-gravidarum-likely-to-suffer-depression-or-anxiety Sat, 13 Feb 2010 20:21:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/13/pregnant-women-with-hyperemesis-gravidarum-likely-to-suffer-depression-or-anxiety Mental Health's January 2010 issue.

"Some women with a [...]]]> Mental Health's January 2010 issue.

"Some women with a medical disorder during pregnancy showed considerably elevated levels of anxiety and depression. Health professionals need to be aware that these women need extra psychological support."

They found this was particularly true for women with hyperemesis gravidarum, a severe form of morning sickness that prevents adequate intake of food and fluids.

If these women don't receive adequate support during pregnancy, one can surmise that they are at a greater risk for postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety. This is important for OB/GYNs to pay attention to.

Have you any idea how much good an Antepartum Doula could do ?

Contact me for more info...

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/09/the-hard-call http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/09/the-hard-call Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:57:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/09/the-hard-call
So I got a call, from a woman who's relative went to the 5 month ultrasound and it was tragic. There was no heartbeat. This woman was directed to me because I have taken over the fledgling group- H.U.G. (Holistic Understanding of Grief), and I was asked [...]]]>
So I got a call, from a woman who's relative went to the 5 month ultrasound and it was tragic. There was no heartbeat. This woman was directed to me because I have taken over the fledgling group- H.U.G. (Holistic Understanding of Grief), and I was asked if I could attend to the relative as she went through her ordeal. Of course, I said yes.

It's heartbreaking and traumatic for anyone to experience this tragic event.The thing is, there's no perfect consolation. Words fail and actions are good... but there's always going to be a hole in the heart and consciousness. I ease the trauma, but not the pain.

Sometimes, my work is very difficult. Providing support is necessary - and when I get back from my trip to the states, I plan to expand HUG. I have been working so hard to bring awareness for the need in support for childbearing - this is included.

I had a hard day, but I turned it around... nachamu, nachamu... console, console.

May we only hear good news in the future.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/01/unassisted-home-birth-it-was-an-accident http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/01/unassisted-home-birth-it-was-an-accident Mon, 01 Feb 2010 07:49:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/02/01/unassisted-home-birth-it-was-an-accident
Her body's way of experiencing contractions were sporadic, there was not set pattern, no set rhythm. Braxton - Hicks, probably. So she went to sleep. This was not her first birth, thank G-d, [...]]]>
Her body's way of experiencing contractions were sporadic, there was not set pattern, no set rhythm. Braxton - Hicks, probably. So she went to sleep. This was not her first birth, thank G-d, because the panic she could have felt would have endangered her and the baby. Suddenly, in the middle of the night, she had to run to the restroom.

In the restroom she realized it was labor and now here comes... the baby! She called to her husband and he called MADA- Hatzolah (the medical emergency response). Meanwhile, back in the restroom, her body was working to get the baby out and she realized there was no turning back, no waiting. No amount of panting was getting her through without pushing.

So she pushed. And there was a head. She waited and pushed a little and there was the shoulder and arm and WHOOSH! the baby. Just like that. Alone. Just like that.

Well, the great news is that both mother and baby were fine, thank G-d. That was some time ago and now, she's in the end of her next pregnancy. And you know what she told me?

"As surprising as it was to give birth alone in my restroom, as unexpected as that was - it was so quiet, I was alone with my baby. And I believe in birthing in the hospital, but after the last experience, I would love to have the quiet and peaceful atmosphere of that again. I almost don't want to go to the hospital. But I will go."

I told her that she must really pay attention to her body's signals and keep in touch with her doula, a smart and experienced woman who is not into risk taking.

But sometimes, birth happens. Just like that.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/29/what-binah-baby-is-up-to http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/29/what-binah-baby-is-up-to Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:26:41 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/29/what-binah-baby-is-up-to Binah Baby is... taking the message on the road! Details coming soon. If your In LA or on the East Coast and want to meet with me, I'll be posting cities and dates, G-d Willing, soon.

Do you want to help families in Israel start of in the right foot? Contact me and we'll talk about how you can do that! [...]]]> Binah Baby is... taking the message on the road! Details coming soon. If your In LA or on the East Coast and want to meet with me, I'll be posting cities and dates, G-d Willing, soon.

Do you want to help families in Israel start of in the right foot? Contact me and we'll talk about how you can do that!

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/28/what-to-pack-in-the-bag-in-israel http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/28/what-to-pack-in-the-bag-in-israel Thu, 28 Jan 2010 13:42:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/28/what-to-pack-in-the-bag-in-israel
-*Pregnancy medical papers *

-*Two - hot water bottles (any drug store)*

*-Money, including small change for food/drink machines in middle of night *

*-Red Raspberry Leaves (for tea)*

-White grape juice (as in real grape juice) - one bottle.

-Snacks for husband, and [...]]]>
-*Pregnancy medical papers *

-*Two - hot water bottles (any drug store)*

*-Money, including small change for food/drink machines in middle of night *

*-Red Raspberry Leaves (for tea)*

-White grape juice (as in real grape juice) - one bottle.

-Snacks for husband, and whomever else is accompanying you (like chewy
granola bars, or sandwiches easy to make). (Note: You don't have to
bring for the doula – she's responsible for her own;)
-Snacks for YOU- grapes or other non-citrus fruits, crackers (preferably
whole grain, yet easy-to-digest), and a few juice bottles or juice boxes
with straws*
-Bottled water - 3 bottles
-Four - bath towels (some don't provide)

-Plastic Trash Bags for Wet Towels
-Shower shoes/Crocs
-A pillow
-Plastic cups
-Straws
-Hair covers/hairbands which are very comfortable
-Comfortable nightgown with wide sleeves, that you like, and yet you
don't mind throwing out after the birth (Bazarre Strauss - 30 NIS).
Otherwise you can wear the hospital's garments.
chapstick
disposable undies
large sanitary napkins-some hospitals only have small ones
a wash cloth to use as a compress
-Tehillim, siddur, or other sefarim.
-IPOD with speakers, with Hypnobirthing mantras/other music
-Warm socks for after birth
-Almond oil, unopened (any drug store). Midwives use this for birthing
stage.

And anything else in particular that will make you feel most comfortable.

* One very effective trick is to have the mother take along a zippy bag
of "labor cubes" to the hospital, storing them in her room fridge.
"Labor Cubes" are ice cubes made out of very strong raspberry leaf tea
(perhaps one cup herb to one quart water, simmered down to half and
strained) that is heavily sweetened with honey. If the laboring mother
begins to fade, energy petering out or contractions waning due to lack
of nutrition, she can chomp on these satisfying slushy cubes, which
usually will perk her up and kick in some great contractions in a matter
of minutes.
— *Beth Barbeau*
Excerpted from "Tricks of the Trade: Liquids Only," Midwifery Today,
Issue 81

Take as small a bag as possible because you might end up carrying it around with you.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/25/israels-infant-mortality-rate-is-lower-than-the-us http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/25/israels-infant-mortality-rate-is-lower-than-the-us Mon, 25 Jan 2010 14:21:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/25/israels-infant-mortality-rate-is-lower-than-the-us
4.22/1000 live births and under the age of one year. This is due to education, cultural norms in infant care and the health care system. SIDS rates in Israel are sketchy and since 1993, the numbers are hard to attain. Partially, this is due to an [...]]]>
4.22/1000 live births and under the age of one year. This is due to education, cultural norms in infant care and the health care system. SIDS rates in Israel are sketchy and since 1993, the numbers are hard to attain. Partially, this is due to an avoidance in Israel to perform autopsies. (Autopsies rule out other causes) So, the rates of SIDS we can measure are inside the statistics for Infant Mortality Rates (IMR).

The IMR have decreased from 6.75 in 2007 to 4.22 in 2009. A drop of 37.99% - this is significant! We can infer that the number of SIDS cases in Israel has decreased significantly, as the awareness/prevention efforts have increased.

I personally prefer attachment parenting, I think that many parents are returning to this, as well. Placing babies to sleep on their backs is the recommended position by the Israeli Pediatric Association. But a return to attachment parenting cannot and should not be disregarded in the decrease in the IMR.

The United States IMR is: 6.26/1000 live births.

Now- what do you think the large discrepancy in numbers is due to?

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/24/should-men-never-attend-birth http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/24/should-men-never-attend-birth Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:40:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/24/should-men-never-attend-birth A top obstetrician on why men should NEVER be at the birth of their child

By MICHEL ODENT -
Last updated at 23:46pm on 15th April 2008

This week, the Mail reported a new survey which said fathers should be allowed to stay overnight in hospital on the day their baby is born.

But how much should a man be [...]]]> A top obstetrician on why men should NEVER be at the birth of their child

By MICHEL ODENT -
Last updated at 23:46pm on 15th April 2008

This week, the Mail reported a new survey which said fathers should be allowed to stay overnight in hospital on the day their baby is born.

But how much should a man be involved in his child's birth? Leading obstetrician Michel Odent has been instrumental in influencing childbirth practices for decades.

Here, with a view that will outrage many - but will strike a chord with thousands of others - he describes why he believes that when a woman goes into labour, her partner should stay well away.

For many years, I have not been able to speak openly about my views that the presence of a father in a delivery room is not only unnecessary, but also hinders labour.

To utter such a thing over the past two decades would have been regarded as heresy, and flies in the face of popular convention.

But having been involved in childbirth for 50 years, and having been in charge of 15,000 births, I have reached the stage where I feel it is time to state what I - and many midwives and fellow obstetricians - privately consider the obvious.

That there is little good to come for either sex from having a man at the birth of a child.

For her, his presence is a hindrance, and a significant factor in why labours are longer, more painful and more likely to result in intervention than ever.

As for the effect on a man - well, was I surprised to hear a friend of mine state that watching his wife giving birth had started a chain of events that led to the couple's divorce?

Women should be left alone to give birth in peace without the distraction of their partner at their bedside

Or another lady describing how the day after her husband had watched her deliver their child, he had fled to his hometown of Rome, and never returned again?

For many men, the emotional fallout of watching their partner have their baby can never be overcome.

When I was first involved in obstetrics in the Fifties, it was unheard of for a man to be present as their child was born.

Childbirth was predominantly a woman's business - usually carried out at home - and while a man may be in the vicinity at the time of labour, he would usually be found in the kitchen, boiling copious amounts of water, and therefore would miss the actual event.

However, by 1970, a handful of women started to ask for their husbands to be present at the birth, a shift that began to occur in many Western countries at about the same time.

There are a variety of reasons for this, including the fact that birth was being increasingly concentrated in hospitals rather than at home, and the rise of the smaller nuclear family meant women increasingly turned to their husbands for support in all areas of their life, rather than relying on their mothers or aunts.

What we didn't anticipate at the time was that this occasional demand from a handful of women would, in a matter of years, become doctrine.

By the late Seventies, all pregnant women were saying they could not imagine giving birth without their husband at their side.

And not only was the husband now nearly always present at birth, but with his wife clasping his hand during labour and screaming out for reassurance, he became an active participant.

At the time, it was widely believed there were many benefits to be had from the father's presence.

It was said sharing such an experience would strengthen ties between the couple and help the father bond with his baby.

It was said his reassurance would make birth easier, and that the rate of intervention in pregnancy would decrease as a result.

This shift to having the father in the delivery room was one which was shrouded by optimism.

However, little scientific study was conducted to find out if there was any truth to these claims.

And even at the time, I had my reservations. I didn't want to judge, but I knew from experience that the presence of a man is not always a positive thing.

Fast-forward to today, and there is still a lack of scientific study on this subject.

But having been in charge of thousands of births, at homes, in hospitals, in the UK, in France, with the father present, with him absent, I have reached my own conclusions.

I am more and more convinced that the participation of the father is one of the main reasons for long and difficult labours.

And there are a number of basic physiological reasons for this.

First, a labouring woman needs to be protected against any stimulation of the thinking part of her brain - the neocortex - for labour to proceed with any degree of ease.

This part of the brain needs to take a back seat and allow the primal "unthinking" part of the brain connected to basic vital functions to take over.

A woman in labour needs to be in a private world where she doesn't have to think or talk.

Yet, motivated by a desire to "share the experience", the man asks questions and offers words of reassurance and advice.

In doing so, he denies his partner the quiet mind that she needs.

The second reason is that the father's release of the stress hormone adrenaline as he watches his partner labour causes her anxiety, and prevents her from relaxing.

No matter how much he tries to smile and appear relaxed, he cannot help but feel anxious. And the release of adrenaline is contagious.

It has been proven that it is physically impossible to be in a complete state of relaxation if there is an individual standing next to you who is tense and full of adrenaline.

The effect of this is that, with a man present, a woman cannot be as relaxed as she needs to be during labour, and hence the process becomes longer and more difficult.

We must keep in mind that mammals cannot release oxytocin - the key hormone in childbirth - when they are also being influenced by the stressful effects of hormones of the adrenaline family.

I have been with many women as they struggle to give birth with their partner at their side.

Yet the moment he leaves the room, the baby arrives. Afterwards, they say it was just "bad luck" he wasn't there the moment their child was born.

Luck, however, is little to do with it. The truth is that without him there, the woman is finally able to relax into labour in a way that speeds up delivery.

After birth, too, a woman needs a few moments alone with her baby, particularly between the time the child is born and she delivers the placenta.

And this is not just about her need to bond with her baby.

Physically, in order to deliver the placenta with ease, her levels of oxytocin - the hormone of love - need to peak.

This happens if she has a moment in which she can forget everything about the world, save for her baby, and if she has time in which she can look into the baby's eyes, make contact with its skin and take in its smell without any distractions.

Often, as soon as a baby is born, men cannot help but say something or try to touch the baby.

Their interference at this key moment is more often than not the main cause for a difficult delivery of the placenta, too.

But it is not just the fact that men slow down labour that makes me cautious about their presence at the birth.

There are two other important questions that I would like to see answered scientifically.

The first is, are we sure that all men can easily cope with the strong emotional reaction they have when they participate in the birth?

Over the years, I have seen something akin to post-natal depression in many men who have been present at the birth.

In its mild form, men often take to their bed in the week following the birth, complaining of everything from a stomach ache or migraine to a 24-hour bug.

Their wives, meanwhile, are up and about, caring for their baby and in good spirits, and tell me how unfortunate it is that their husband has been struck down by one ailment or another.

But it is well known by those who study depression that rather than admit a low mood, men often offer up a symptom as a reason to why they have taken to their bed.

There are also men who try to find ways to escape the reality of what they have been through.

This could just be a night at the pub, or a day playing golf when their child is a day old.

I've known of perfectly well-balanced men who held their wife's hand through labour then left the next day never to return again.

And in the most graphic example, one perfectly healthy man had his first experience of schizophrenia two days after watching his wife give birth. Was this his way of escaping reality?

Generally speaking, I have noticed that the more the man has participated at the birth and the worse his wife's labour has been, the higher the risks of post-natal "symptoms" are.

Of course, this is not the case for all men, but it seems without doubt that some men are at risk of being unwell or depressed due to having seen their partners labour.

The final question I would like to see answered is what, if a man is present at birth, will be the effect on the sexual attraction he feels towards his wife over the long term?

When men first started standing at their partner's side during labour, I remember my mother's generation saying, very matter of factly, that the couple's intimate life would be ruined as a result.

And, given that the key to eroticism is a degree of mystery, I am left believing they had a point.

There are many things we do in private in order to preserve a degree of modesty and mystery.

And, for the benefit of our sex lives, it may be worth adding childbirth to this list.

I have three children and wasn't present at any of their births.

My first two were born before it was considered normal for a man to be at the birth of their child. But my youngest son was born in 1985, at home.

As it happens, at the exact moment our son arrived in the world, the midwife was on her way down the street and I, having made my excuses realising he was about to be born, was fiddling with the thermostat on the central heating boiler downstairs.

My partner did not know it, but I had given her the exceptionally rare, but ideal situation in which to give birth: she felt secure, she knew the midwife was minutes away and I was downstairs, yet she had complete privacy and no one was watching her.

If there are any doubts, we only have to look across the rest of the mammal world in order to see that no other female, save the human female, invites her sexual partner to witness her giving birth.

Of course, it would not be possible for women to give birth alone.

But the optimum situation for women is to give birth with an experienced midwife, or another woman - known as a doula.

The key to the perfect birthing partner is finding a mother figure who can help, keep a low profile and remain silent.

It is only 35 years since men first entered the delivery room, yet we have welcomed them in without question.

At the present time, when birth is more difficult and longer than ever, when more women need drugs or Caesareans, we have to dare to smash the limits of political correctness and ask whether men should really be present at birth.

When we take into consideration the effects of this on male and female, it seems the answer is not.

It is time to go back to basics, and turn modern convention on its head.

When it comes to the delivery suite, men would be well advised to stay away.

OKAY- What do you think?

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/21/why-choose-a-midwife http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/21/why-choose-a-midwife Thu, 21 Jan 2010 08:49:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/21/why-choose-a-midwife


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/12/babies http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/12/babies Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:14:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2010/01/12/babies
]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/20/when-things-dont-go-as-planned http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/20/when-things-dont-go-as-planned Sun, 20 Dec 2009 08:06:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/20/when-things-dont-go-as-planned
Then the fever broke [...]]]>
Then the fever broke (several days later), and I am weak, but here I am - Thank G-d. You know what was the worst part of it? The worry.

I missed a very important conference and I really wanted to be there. I though it was really a crucial step to my work here, in Israel. I hope it won't affect my work negatively! If I had gone (Advil pumped) there were may people who could have been exposed to the illness. And just because I do not advise the H1N1 vaccine for pregnant women, doesn't mean I don't worry for them if they get it!

So I stayed home, slept, and thought about my plan and G-d's plan. We weren't on the same page. So I sigh, accept it and got better anyways! It's a lesson in humility. NO matter how we plan, I eat well, take vitamins, walk regularly, find some "me time" and all... it still didn't prevent the flu from getting me, when I least wanted it! Sometimes we just have to accept what it is.

It works that way in the road to parenting, we plan, prepare, pray, hope. If the outcome isn't exactly as we pictured it, by no fault of our own, we have to know that we did the best we humanly could and the rest is in Hands of Heaven.





]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/08/my-trip-to-the-us-embassy-in-israel http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/08/my-trip-to-the-us-embassy-in-israel Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:02:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/08/my-trip-to-the-us-embassy-in-israel dreaded trip to the US embassy. I was providing moral support to a person who needed to replace a lost passport.

First, take the train and then a taxi - it's a door to door thing - and easy as you can't believe!

Second, storing your stuff will cost 10 nis. It's two doors down from the main entrance. [...]]]> dreaded trip to the US embassy. I was providing moral support to a person who needed to replace a lost passport.

First, take the train and then a taxi - it's a door to door thing - and easy as you can't believe!

Second, storing your stuff will cost 10 nis. It's two doors down from the main entrance. Take your wallet and papers. Easy.

If your are a citizen, go through the doors, and they direct you down a nice, clean hallway to a desk to check you off the list (appointments are listed).

You wait in a large room (it has toys for little ones) until your name is called go to the window specified. You turn in your paperwork, then go to the pay window. Pay. Then wait again and agent will call your name and ask a bunch of questions ( to verify that you are who you say you are).

Then that's it, go home. Catch a taxi back to Hashalom station, and go home. That's it. Done.

Yes, folks - it is that easy. Pay a few extra shekel on the taxi - it's worth it's weight in stress reduction!

I am telling you this because there is so much to do about nothing. Going, getting there, dealing with it, it's easy. The weirdest thing was English- it was everywhere! I am so not used to that anymore... and responding everything without a second to define/translate it... I have to admit. That was nice. But stepping out into Israel - was a relief beyond measure. My Israeli taxi driver was "family" and we talked about living here, choices and loving this pace, warts and all.

Okay, so this is not about birth, but I felt born into my choice to be here, yet again! Love to be here and helping you all to transition to parenting.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/04/cool-tools http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/04/cool-tools Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:25:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/04/cool-tools
I hope you use it... It's easy and efficient. Two things I like :)

Go HERE to check it out! [...]]]>
I hope you use it... It's easy and efficient. Two things I like :)

Go HERE to check it out!

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/03/maternity-leave-in-israel-is-getting-better http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/03/maternity-leave-in-israel-is-getting-better Thu, 03 Dec 2009 10:15:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/12/03/maternity-leave-in-israel-is-getting-better here to read more. [...]]]> here to read more.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/30/oh-baby-ive-got-work-to-do http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/30/oh-baby-ive-got-work-to-do Mon, 30 Nov 2009 13:23:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/30/oh-baby-ive-got-work-to-do "Who are you? What work do you do?" I am out in the public eye a lot recently,as I am promoting my new book- Oh Baby! A guide to managing the '4th trimester"- and I am asked this question frequently.

I have had to face that question often and after speaking about it with a friend, [...]]]> "Who are you? What work do you do?" I am out in the public eye a lot recently,as I am promoting my new book- Oh Baby! A guide to managing the '4th trimester"- and I am asked this question frequently.

I have had to face that question often and after speaking about it with a friend, I realize that if I had to coin who I am and what I do in a few sentences, it wasn't going to be so easy!

So, after many hours, I summarize my role as a "Family Transition Specialist".

Through consultations, I assist Oleh couples with the birth system from fertility through after birth (postpartum). When couples work with me they fell less stress and fear. They feel strong and capable in their role as parents.

My book focuses on the three months after a baby is born, it is a concise and clear guide to managing the time period. I encourage increased support and care so that parents are not overwhelmed, and they are able to start out on healthy and whole.

I realize that, not only am I eager to see changes in this regard, I am absolutely passionate about it. I care about families so much. Last evening, I was thrilled when a new mother I counseled, came up to me with her new baby (2 months). She said it was a great birth, a great new motherhood. She said her husband was so happy. And she loves my book, she says it's doing a lot of good. I knew it was worth it.

I know - I am going to keep doing this for a very long time.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/22/h1n1-vaccine-not-for-pregnant-or-those-hoping-to-be http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/22/h1n1-vaccine-not-for-pregnant-or-those-hoping-to-be Sun, 22 Nov 2009 07:52:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/22/h1n1-vaccine-not-for-pregnant-or-those-hoping-to-be pregnant women are NOT receiving the H1N1 vaccine.

It might have something to do with a correlation between the vaccine (untested and unproven for pregnancy and children under 2) and miscarriage... it's theory and speculation - but when Israel isn't rushing to vaccinate a segment of the population the other [...]]]> pregnant women are NOT receiving the H1N1 vaccine.

It might have something to do with a correlation between the vaccine (untested and unproven for pregnancy and children under 2) and miscarriage... it's theory and speculation - but when Israel isn't rushing to vaccinate a segment of the population the other countries are rushing to immunize, you've got to wonder what's in this thing! So me, being me, I looked into it.

The liquid that delivers the dead virus, and makes the body react against the virus, is called adjuvant. The adjuvant in the H1N1 vaccine is a combination of several substances that have proved to reduce fertility (by the W.H.O.) and increase neurological symptoms (GB syndrome?). We can't predict who is more or less susceptible. 2500 miscarriages happen daily in the USA. Those who might have been prone to miscarriage - we don't know in advance(!) - are experiencing symptoms of cramping and bleeding within 3 hours of taking the shot. Maybe it's only 1st trimester? No! 2nd trimester miscarriages are occurring within three to six hours post immunization. Maybe they were prone as well? Who knows. Third trimester - early labor symptoms within hours of vaccination! Too much coincidence for my liking. I just don't like it. But I am not telling any woman to refuse it. It's your decision.

I recommend you do your research, like I did mine - I spent hours, days and weeks looking into, speaking to researchers, doctors and others... If you have questions contact me at shoshana@binahbaby.com


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/19/sonograms-routine-or-routinely-unnecessary http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/19/sonograms-routine-or-routinely-unnecessary Thu, 19 Nov 2009 08:10:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/19/sonograms-routine-or-routinely-unnecessary MUST read. By Rabbi Lazer Brody,shlita. Agree or disagree the issue stands.

Yes, I agree they should be done, but early on and that's it.

Rabbi Brody said best.
[...]]]> MUST read. By Rabbi Lazer Brody,shlita. Agree or disagree the issue stands.

Yes, I agree they should be done, but early on and that's it.

Rabbi Brody said best.


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/13/from-generation-to-generation http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/13/from-generation-to-generation Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:12:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/13/from-generation-to-generation I was pregnant 20 years ago. And again, 12 years ago... [...]]]>

I was pregnant 20 years ago. And again, 12 years ago...

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/10/unity-among-colleagues http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/10/unity-among-colleagues Tue, 10 Nov 2009 17:20:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/10/unity-among-colleagues What is unity within a competitive field? It's true happiness for others success, and not being jealous of what another has.

What cannot be yours will not be yours - even if you acquire it now, it will slip through your hands if it was not meant to be yours.

I suppose it's a religious philosophy [...]]]> What is unity within a competitive field? It's true happiness for others success, and not being jealous of what another has.

What cannot be yours will not be yours - even if you acquire it now, it will slip through your hands if it was not meant to be yours.

I suppose it's a religious philosophy as much as a social one. What is supposed to be yours - will be. Rabbi Chaim Luzzatto, of righteous and blessed memory, said it best; and I am just paraphrasing and summarizing the concept.

So in a competitive field, don't go it alone. Band together - every one will be stronger because of it. If a potential client comes to you and you don't have connection - don't forget the woman you know, who would click with this client! You have helped immensely, you have garnered the respect of your colleague and the admiration of your community.

A group who demonstrates respect for each other, will garner great regard from the population who acquires services.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/doula-wealth-or-waste http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/doula-wealth-or-waste Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:01:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/doula-wealth-or-waste
"Conclusion: For middle-class women laboring with the support of their male partner, the continuous presence of a doula during labor significantly decreased the [...]]]>
"Conclusion: For middle-class women laboring with the support of their male partner, the continuous presence of a doula during labor significantly decreased the likelihood of cesarean delivery and reduced the need for epidural analgesia. Women and their male partners were unequivocal in their positive opinions about laboring with the support of a doula. "

So, there are more choices in childbirth. Those of us in the birth field know that this is true, but fact is fact. A Doula or Labor Coach - friend, sister, mother, aunt... - Is a valuable asset to the birth experience.

Result: Wealth not waste

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/this-is-very-interesting-not-sure-where-i-fall-on-this-one http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/this-is-very-interesting-not-sure-where-i-fall-on-this-one Mon, 09 Nov 2009 08:20:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/11/09/this-is-very-interesting-not-sure-where-i-fall-on-this-one I think that there's a happy medium. But I do write about trauma, birth and fathers in my new book - Oh Baby! A guide to managing the "4th trimester" You should know Dr. Michel Odent is no lightweight in birth. He's a real heavyweight, his observations have been proven true.

A top obstetrician on why men should [...]]]> I think that there's a happy medium. But I do write about trauma, birth and fathers in my new book - Oh Baby! A guide to managing the "4th trimester" You should know Dr. Michel Odent is no lightweight in birth. He's a real heavyweight, his observations have been proven true.

A top obstetrician on why men should NEVER be at the birth of their child
By MICHEL ODENT -

This week, the Mail reported a new survey which said fathers should be allowed to stay overnight in hospital on the day their baby is born.

But how much should a man be involved in his child's birth? Leading obstetrician Michel Odent has been instrumental in influencing childbirth practices for decades.

Here, with a view that will outrage many - but will strike a chord with thousands of others - he describes why he believes that when a woman goes into labour, her partner should stay well away.

For many years, I have not been able to speak openly about my views that the presence of a father in a delivery room is not only unnecessary, but also hinders labour.

To utter such a thing over the past two decades would have been regarded as heresy, and flies in the face of popular convention.

But having been involved in childbirth for 50 years, and having been in charge of 15,000 births, I have reached the stage where I feel it is time to state what I - and many midwives and fellow obstetricians - privately consider the obvious.

That there is little good to come for either sex from having a man at the birth of a child.

For her, his presence is a hindrance, and a significant factor in why labours are longer, more painful and more likely to result in intervention than ever.

As for the effect on a man - well, was I surprised to hear a friend of mine state that watching his wife giving birth had started a chain of events that led to the couple's divorce?

Women should be left alone to give birth in peace without the distraction of their partner at their bedside

Or another lady describing how the day after her husband had watched her deliver their child, he had fled to his hometown of Rome, and never returned again?

For many men, the emotional fallout of watching their partner have their baby can never be overcome.

When I was first involved in obstetrics in the Fifties, it was unheard of for a man to be present as their child was born.

Childbirth was predominately a woman's business - usually carried out at home - and while a man may be in the vicinity at the time of labour, he would usually be found in the kitchen, boiling copious amounts of water, and therefore would miss the actual event.

However, by 1970, a handful of women started to ask for their husbands to be present at the birth, a shift that began to occur in many Western countries at about the same time.

There are a variety of reasons for this, including the fact that birth was being increasingly concentrated in hospitals rather than at home, and the rise of the smaller nuclear family meant women increasingly turned to their husbands for support in all areas of their life, rather than relying on their mothers or aunts.

What we didn't anticipate at the time was that this occasional demand from a handful of women would, in a matter of years, become doctrine.

By the late Seventies, all pregnant women were saying they could not imagine giving birth without their husband at their side.

And not only was the husband now nearly always present at birth, but with his wife clasping his hand during labour and screaming out for reassurance, he became an active participant.

At the time, it was widely believed there were many benefits to be had from the father's presence.

It was said sharing such an experience would strengthen ties between the couple and help the father bond with his baby.

It was said his reassurance would make birth easier, and that the rate of intervention in pregnancy would decrease as a result.

This shift to having the father in the delivery room was one which was shrouded by optimism.

However, little scientific study was conducted to find out if there was any truth to these claims.

And even at the time, I had my reservations. I didn't want to judge, but I knew from experience that the presence of a man is not always a positive thing.

Fast-forward to today, and there is still a lack of scientific study on this subject.

But having been in charge of thousands of births, at homes, in hospitals, in the UK, in France, with the father present, with him absent, I have reached my own conclusions.

I am more and more convinced that the participation of the father is one of the main reasons for long and difficult labours.

And there are a number of basic physiological reasons for this.

First, a labouring woman needs to be protected against any stimulation of the thinking part of her brain - the neocortex - for labour to proceed with any degree of ease.

This part of the brain needs to take a back seat and allow the primal "unthinking" part of the brain connected to basic vital functions to take over.

A woman in labour needs to be in a private world where she doesn't have to think or talk.

Yet, motivated by a desire to "share the experience", the man asks questions and offers words of reassurance and advice.

In doing so, he denies his partner the quiet mind that she needs.

The second reason is that the father's release of the stress hormone adrenaline as he watches his partner labour causes her anxiety, and prevents her from relaxing.

No matter how much he tries to smile and appear relaxed, he cannot help but feel anxious. And the release of adrenaline is contagious.

It has been proven that it is physically impossible to be in a complete state of relaxation if there is an individual standing next to you who is tense and full of adrenaline.

The effect of this is that, with a man present, a woman cannot be as relaxed as she needs to be during labour, and hence the process becomes longer and more difficult.

We must keep in mind that mammals cannot release oxytocin - the key hormone in childbirth - when they are also being influenced by the stressful effects of hormones of the adrenaline family.

I have been with many women as they struggle to give birth with their partner at their side.

Yet the moment he leaves the room, the baby arrives. Afterwards, they say it was just "bad luck" he wasn't there the moment their child was born.

Luck, however, is little to do with it. The truth is that without him there, the woman is finally able to relax into labour in a way that speeds up delivery.

After birth, too, a woman needs a few moments alone with her baby, particularly between the time the child is born and she delivers the placenta.

And this is not just about her need to bond with her baby.

Physically, in order to deliver the placenta with ease, her levels of oxytocin - the hormone of love - need to peak.

This happens if she has a moment in which she can forget everything about the world, save for her baby, and if she has time in which she can look into the baby's eyes, make contact with its skin and take in its smell without any distractions.

Often, as soon as a baby is born, men cannot help but say something or try to touch the baby.

Their interference at this key moment is more often than not the main cause for a difficult delivery of the placenta, too.

But it is not just the fact that men slow down labour that makes me cautious about their presence at the birth.

There are two other important questions that I would like to see answered scientifically.

The first is, are we sure that all men can easily cope with the strong emotional reaction they have when they participate in the birth?

Over the years, I have seen something akin to post-natal depression in many men who have been present at the birth.

In its mild form, men often take to their bed in the week following the birth, complaining of everything from a stomach ache or migraine to a 24-hour bug.

Their wives, meanwhile, are up and about, caring for their baby and in good spirits, and tell me how unfortunate it is that their husband has been struck down by one ailment or another.

But it is well known by those who study depression that rather than admit a low mood, men often offer up a symptom as a reason to why they have taken to their bed.

There are also men who try to find ways to escape the reality of what they have been through.

This could just be a night at the pub, or a day playing golf when their child is a day old.

I've known of perfectly well-balanced men who held their wife's hand through labour then left the next day never to return again.

And in the most graphic example, one perfectly healthy man had his first experience of schizophrenia two days after watching his wife give birth. Was this his way of escaping reality?

Generally speaking, I have noticed that the more the man has participated at the birth and the worse his wife's labour has been, the higher the risks of post-natal "symptoms" are.

Of course, this is not the case for all men, but it seems without doubt that some men are at risk of being unwell or depressed due to having seen their partners labour.

The final question I would like to see answered is what, if a man is present at birth, will be the effect on the sexual attraction he feels towards his wife over the long term?

When men first started standing at their partner's side during labour, I remember my mother's generation saying, very matter of factly, that the couple's intimate life would be ruined as a result.

And, given that the key to eroticism is a degree of mystery, I am left believing they had a point.

There are many things we do in private in order to preserve a degree of modesty and mystery.

And, for the benefit of our sex lives, it may be worth adding childbirth to this list.

I have three children and wasn't present at any of their births.

My first two were born before it was considered normal for a man to be at the birth of their child. But my youngest son was born in 1985, at home.

As it happens, at the exact moment our son arrived in the world, the midwife was on her way down the street and I, having made my excuses realising he was about to be born, was fiddling with the thermostat on the central heating boiler downstairs.

My partner did not know it, but I had given her the exceptionally rare, but ideal situation in which to give birth: she felt secure, she knew the midwife was minutes away and I was downstairs, yet she had complete privacy and no one was watching her.

If there are any doubts, we only have to look across the rest of the mammal world in order to see that no other female, save the human female, invites her sexual partner to witness her giving birth.

Of course, it would not be possible for women to give birth alone.

But the optimum situation for women is to give birth with an experienced midwife, or another woman - known as a doula.

The key to the perfect birthing partner is finding a mother figure who can help, keep a low profile and remain silent.

It is only 35 years since men first entered the delivery room, yet we have welcomed them in without question.

At the present time, when birth is more difficult and longer than ever, when more women need drugs or Caesareans, we have to dare to smash the limits of political correctness and ask whether men should really be present at birth.

When we take into consideration the effects of this on male and female, it seems the answer is not.

It is time to go back to basics, and turn modern convention on its head.

When it comes to the delivery suite, men would be well advised to stay away.

OKAY- What do you think?

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/20/poor-man http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/20/poor-man Tue, 20 Oct 2009 08:20:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/20/poor-man a lot of nerve! [...]]]> a lot of nerve!



]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/13/some-news-about-the-israel-birth-rate http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/13/some-news-about-the-israel-birth-rate Tue, 13 Oct 2009 08:29:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/10/13/some-news-about-the-israel-birth-rate
"Maayanei Hayeshua hospital in Bnei Brak has released statistics according to which a record number of births took place in the hospital in September. More than 900 babies were delivered in that month, 100 more than the previous record month, December 2008. The hospital said that close to 500 of the [...]]]>
"Maayanei Hayeshua hospital in Bnei Brak has released statistics according to which a record number of births took place in the hospital in September. More than 900 babies were delivered in that month, 100 more than the previous record month, December 2008. The hospital said that close to 500 of the babies born in September 2009 were boys, and that about 10 percent of the births were of twins."

And it gets better!

"The record number for babies born during a single eight-hour shift during September was 24, or three per hour, and the single day with the most births was the high holiday of Yom Kippur 5770. More than 40 babies were born on that day alone. The hospital said that its doctors have determined that the relatively high number of births on Yom Kippur is not due to fasting by patients.

The head of the hospital's Mothers and Women Section, Dr. Benny Chen, said that the most impressive statistic related to the number of natural births, as opposed to caesarean sections, at the hospital. “By G-d's grace, the average rate of natural births is 88.5 percent,” he said. “Only 12.5 percent were born in a caesarean section – about half the national rate.”

Dr. Chen said that the number of births at the hospital has grown by about 10 percent annually since 2006. There were 8,742 babies born in the hospital in 2008 – compared to 6,968 in 2006. The hospital is Israel's fourth largest in terms of births per year."

BTW- The name “Maayanei Hayeshua” means “the Springs of Salvation” and is taken from a verse in Chapter 12 of the Book of Isaiah.

Now that- is Binah, baby!

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/29/this-is-the-best-part-of-all http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/29/this-is-the-best-part-of-all Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:26:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/29/this-is-the-best-part-of-all


]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/24/talking-about-birth-men-are-you-listening http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/24/talking-about-birth-men-are-you-listening Thu, 24 Sep 2009 17:51:00 +0000 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/2009/09/24/talking-about-birth-men-are-you-listening It's often perceived that birth is women's business. That's right, it is. But I think men need some credit in this area. Think about it.

Men are becoming fathers. Every time a woman gives birth, her husband becomes a father again. It means family needs increase. It means that he worries about his wife, the baby, the process and [...]]]> It's often perceived that birth is women's business. That's right, it is. But I think men need some credit in this area. Think about it.

Men are becoming fathers. Every time a woman gives birth, her husband becomes a father again. It means family needs increase. It means that he worries about his wife, the baby, the process and the outcome. It's a lot of stress on the guys. It's not fair what we've done to them.

What have we done?

Okay, we take these great guys and teach them everything they might need to know about birth so that they can be the support for their wives. We then, take these same guys and... throw them into the fire. They must handle each contraction, increasing in intensity, with a cool calm and level head.

But wait. Most husbands I know can't stand to see their wives suffer. Ever.

Now, here we are throwing them into the center of a process they can only intellectually understand. We are saying- "Hey, get with the program- be calm cool and collected. Remember everything you've learned- but don't expect everything to be exactly that way..." I know that the word to describe it would be: FEAR.

What if the men could get a person to accompany their wives through the process, give the men a chance to be truly helpful, and advocate for his wife and maybe even get a bathroom break? But he would still be front and center, and not miss out on loving his wife and baby. Wouldn't that be great?

The person, who helps a man to give to his wife during birth, is a Doula.

Men have every bit as much right to the support and care of a Doula. Men have every right to know that his wife is in constant, caring and knowledgeable hands. Men experience birth in their own way- but they experience birth, all the same.

]]> http://binahbaby.com/blog/0000/00/00/the-first-three-are-the-hardest-7 http://binahbaby.com/blog/0000/00/00/the-first-three-are-the-hardest-7 Binah Baby http://binahbaby.com/blog/0000/00/00/the-first-three-are-the-hardest-7
(Heads up! Kol Isha...) [...]]]>
(Heads up! Kol Isha...)



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